Mr. Darcy Game
Mr. Darcy is a famous literary character. He is also a world famous lover. He doesn’t just get any girl, but he gets the girl he wants. Getting what you want and not just what you can get is fundamental to our philosophy at Charisma Arts, and I’m going to use Mr. Darcy’s dashing example to explain how you can achieve this too. For about 200 hundred years Darcy’s been making women go weak at the knees, and making all other male attempts at seduction look bad. You may not be into Georgian Romance novels but we can all learn a few tricks to success, and mistakes, from what he did. He may have screwed up a few times (don’t we all) in his journey to getting the girl of his dreams, but he did it with so much style that he’s been a hero of romance ever since. His unique ‘Darcy’ seduction style even rivals that of our own Wayne Elise… To save you reading all 400 exciting pages of ‘Pride and Prejudice’, I’m going to have a go at condensing Darcy Theory into a few key principles… and make them relevant to helping you overcome your dating dilemmas. Darcy’s Mistakes: How not to introduce yourself to the girl: Even if you’re not a dashing, loaded, member of the landed gentry and likely to make everyone around you feel inadequate, an insult as a way to open a conversation can still go badly wrong. When asked if he would like to dance with his ‘target’ Darcy says ‘she is not handsome enough to tempt me’, just loud enough so that she could hear. That’s a pretty big insult in the Regency period. Insulting your target didn’t work 200 hundred years ago for Darcy (all the women in the novel [...]
Listening
By Wayne Elise Most of us listen so poorly to others because we don’t want to hear what they have to say. We want them to be different from who they truly are. We push them to be pawns of our desire so frantically we put words in their mouths: “How you doing, alright?” “Did you have a good time at the circus?” “Oh, you work as a nurse. That’s a noble profession. You’re a good person.” Those lines are bad. They are representative of our biases and our nervous need to push the conversation. We want a conversational partner so badly we can’t relax and wait for the truth. That’s not sexy. It also causes a disconnect from the other person. When we try to move the relationship forward he or she freaks out. “You don’t really know me. Why do you want to spend time with me alone? You are thinking I’m different than what I am. You are trying to force me to be other than what I am. You are intimating that I have led you on – that I am that person. Apparently I have deceived you or you have deceived yourself. I feel trapped but I guess a little more deception can’t hurt. I’ll just make up a lie to get out of this. I will flake on you. Tell you at the last minute that my cousin is in town and I have to show her around, yeah, that’s a good one. Goodbye.” Sexy people are never bothered by hearing another person’s truth, good, bad or otherwise. “How was your night?” “Are you wanting to go right now? I don’t want to keep you.” “I want to see you but you can say no.” “Does that make sense or am I crazy? I [...]