Written by Hayley on April 28, 2010 · 19 Comments
Want to learn how to communicate with women more successfully and get them on that hot date with you? Want to know to how to send a text or an email that will get the response you want? Then stop planning your date and start visualizing it. It’s 8pm Monday night. My phone beeps with a text message. “What r u up to Friday night?” My heart pounds. What does this guy want to do? I am free on Friday night, but if I say I am, then I’m trapped. I could have ended up unwittingly agreeing to go and see Avatar for the 6th time with his annoying friends, meet his parents or (worst of all) an incredibly awkward evening at his flat filled with mood lighting and make-out playlists eek! I quite like him, but the odds of having a cool adventure versus a dating nightmare don’t look good so I text back: “I’m busy”- this can be exchanged for ‘I’m washing my hair/ helping a best friend through a break up/ seeing my mum whose just come to town’ or any other LIE I can think of to get out of committing to seeing you. “I think I’m going to be busy”- Maybes are not good news. They can pretty much be interpreted as ‘no’. I am however still offering a slight window of opportunity for you to win me over with your date night plans. Unfortunately you’ll probably respond like this ‘Avatar, 6pm, on Richmond Street? You can get the 106 bus there or i can meet you after work.’ I inwardly sigh and remind myself to text you back (two days later) with: “Sorry I am busy after all, I’m washing my hair/ helping a friend/ seeing my mother/ my pet fish has died” etc [...]
Written by Dan Tena on September 3, 2009 · 7 Comments
By Greg Building my social network was something I struggled with a lot, especially when I first moved to San Francisco from the East Coast. I have three bits of advice that I feel helped me: 1) Be the first to initiate the friendship. I’ve found that guys can be weird about becoming friends with other guys and often won’t take the initiative to hang out. When you meet a guy who you think is worth hanging out with, exchange numbers and tell him you’d like to hang out. Then (and this is something I struggled with), call him up soon and invite him out. It could be to meet girls at a club, or to grab breakfast, whatever. The most important thing, though, is take the first step to make the friendship, because often other people won’t. I learned this from a friend who was just amazing at meeting people and making friends. His trick? He would invite people out for breakfast on the weekends, or invite them to go out to the bar with him at night. He was persistent about it too. Don’t give up on someone just because they can’t come out the first time. 2) Always say yes. I don’t know about you, but I like being by myself. Despite Charisma Arts and lots of time socializing I’m still an introvert at heart. Because of that, it’s easy for me to say “no” when people invite me to do things. Maybe I’d rather play music, or hang out with some girl that I want to sleep with. At a certain point I became frustrated and told myself, “I’m going to say yes to everything, no matter how I feel at the time!” If it was 11 at night and I had to work early and someone [...]