Commitment

By Harry I decided to write this post as this is something I feel my clients often do not realize the importance of. When I think about it, numerous pillars of our method revolve around the idea of commitment from both parties in an interaction. So I want to share some of my thoughts with you about why this often undervalued principle is so important. First, barring a few exceptions due to extraneous circumstances, I cannot think of an interaction that I was ‘blown out’ of when I was fully committed to beginning a conversation. The times when I have been unsuccessful in my endeavors have been when I was in my head, and betrayed this self-consciousness through  non-verbal behavior. In other words, I was not thinking about the other person and my genuine interest in engaging them, but instead I was thinking of myself, and how to get something from them. I feel that this is a negative mindset to be in, as it prevents you from being in the moment and focused on finding out about this unique person that fate has placed across your path. Take a moment to think about how you would like to be approached by someone. Would you like them to sidle up, ask you for your opinion on something they did not really care about, all the while talking over their shoulder in an attempt to somehow show that they are not really interested in you as a person? Or would you rather they approached you as a curious, confident, yet vulnerable individual, committed to finding out about you, not in an intrusive manner, but simply as one person to another? The latter shows an attitude to a potential partner which is not only more caring, but also braver in my opinion. [...]