by dR

When I teach a bootcamp, I hammer my clients to do a proper Statement of Intent (SOI).  For those of you who aren’t up on the lingo, that is the point in the interaction when I tell a girl that I am attracted to her.

So when my clients do it, I don’t want them to be like Tiger Woods - I don’t want them to stare at the ball, grasp the club between palms with beading sweat, their hair slick with anxiety and their brow furrowed in concentration.

Hell no, she will think you are holding a big old fart inside if you act so serious.

I want my clients to have FUN!  I want them to be like Michael Jordan jumping up to slam the ball into the basket.  It should look EASY.  It should look NATURAL.  It should look like you’re having FUN when you do it.

So lets talk about how to make that happen.

Day game or Night game, most of my pick ups last 30 - 45 min from when I first start talking to her to when I get her number or we leave together.  I try to wait no later than 20-25 min into the interaction to give my first SOI.
NOTE: this is NOT a definite rule, but mostly a trend of my closes.  Well, I mean, sometimes it’s hard, but that’s usually because she is biting my ears.

Anyway, back to talking about rules.

The 3 Vibe States of Charisma Arts Escalation are:

1) PLATONIC

2) PERSONAL and

3) SEXUAL
Once you have cleared her logistics (stuff like: is she there with her boyfriend?, how does she know everyone in her group?, will her friends call her a slut if she hangs out with me?) it’s time to escalate to SEXUAL.

The SOI declares to the girl that : I SEXY You!

But WAIT!  Before you start talking like Borat, read the next paragraph so that you don’t mess it up when you’re so close to winning the game.

Tell her: “I find you sexy.”

That’s step one.  Time to make it better.  Add a reason why you find her sexy.  The hotter she is, the more the reason should have something to do with her personality instead of her butt.  I’m telling you to do it this way so you seem more genuine than every other guy that says “You are so HOT!  Baby, take me wit ‘chu.”

But don’t get me wrong, fellas.

You are a Hungry Wolf with fangs that shear through the Three Little Bears.  You have desires and intent that only this cute cuddly sexy sheep can fulfill.  Yeah you do.

The SOI ends the PERSONAL Vibe state and begins the SEXUAL Vibe state.