Being in the Moment to Get More Chicks

By John David

Hi Everyone. I’m a Charisma Arts instructor ready to help you meet more and better women. I’ve been traveling for the past seven weeks teaching bootcamps and sleeping on airplanes (aisle seats are the best for bathroom breaks) and in little hotels (give me a soft bed and a shower and I am good to go) around the States and I have had a lot of time to get a feel for what challenges my students have been facing. Here is what I have seen:

Jack is a good-looking guy with an impressive resume’, a smile that would make Bob Barker look pale and a terrier named Wolf. Dawn is a petite nursing student that hates the smell of nail polish remover but loves her high heels and wants to be an actress before she is 30.

Jack is the man in a lot of ways. I am sure there is a lot *I* could learn from *him* if we had longer to hang out, and who doesn’t want a dog named Wolf? I am stealing name that when I get home.

But Jack has one BIG FLAW when it comes to meeting women. Jack has the wrong idea about what it takes to get flirty and physical with Dawn. And that makes me sad, because she is a cutie in her nursing outfit.

Jack has what I call a “Mad Scientist” mentality. He likes to attack his interactions with women a nalytically – with logic and reason – like a young Dr. Frankenstein. (Or as Mel Brooks called it, Fraaauunnhkenschteeen.) He delves deep into the psychology behind this whole “men meeting women” thing. I think he secretly wants a skeleton key that will unlock success in every interaction with a girl.

But in searching for this magic bullet, Jack crawled waaaay too far into his head and got too tangled up in all the thoughts and theories about how to chat up girls contained there. So instead of chatting up Dawn when they meet through their social circle, Jack instead sips his Sam Adams and fumbles his sentences while he searches for the perfect thing to say.

And watch out, my friends. This kind of thing happens as often as that guy from Girls Gone Wild gets sued.

Don’t worry Jack and everyone else. That is what I am here for.

I have been teaching bootcamps and seen tons of guys pour over their interactions like Mad Scientists working all night to find a new way to kill Superman. They talk a lot about social theory and they write boring posts about how to meet women so long that my eyes want to bleed so I don’t read them anymore. Call me selfish but that is just how it is.

I am going to cover two Skills that we at Charisma Arts think at paramount to being a great ladies’ man:

1. Have a Game Plan
2. Read and React

I think it’s good to have a bit of a Game Plan – an idea of what you’d like to happen and how you might make that happen – but Keep It Simple .

I like examples so here are a few…

I saw a girl that caught my eye one night in a dive bar in Ann Arbor. She had dark hair and porcelain skin and reminded me Kate Beckinsale, the only girl that could ever make killing vampires look sexy to me. She was with 5 of her friends who were having a good time. I introduced myself, gathered logistics (which you can learn more about during a bootcamp or on our Forum ) and did my best to win over her friends. With that covered, I engaged Kate and got commitment.

There. That was my initial gameplan. Turned out she and her friends were a mix of hot girls, their mom’s and dad’s and brothers and family members all celebrating graduation from dental school or something. I got Kate’s number and told her we were going to bust up some vampires together later in the week, “I’ll bring the garlic, you bring the wooden stakes.” She looked at me weird but oh well. I like what I like.

As soon as I could pick up a football I wanted to run with it. Call me a jock if you’d like, but I think of pick up sometimes from the mindset of being a middle linebacker in football. The Game Plan (in pick up) is like a play from the playbook. It’s simple and gives you a good idea of what you should be doing and what will hopefully happen. But far more important is your ability to Read and React . Every good linebacker knows that once the ball is snapped you often throw your play out the window and it’s a matter of reading and reacting to what’s going on in front of you.

It’s Murphy’s Law , nothing goes as planned for long.

Let’s look at how my interaction with Kate and her group could have gone:

• I open the group and everyone stops talking and looks at me with looks of surprise on their face. Two seconds go by and nobody says anything. “The Mountain Has Crumbled Before Me”, as my old sensei Johnny Saviour used to say. It’s time to Read and React. Let’s start with reading. They still seem friendly. The looks on their faces are not that of fear or shock or “Who is this creep?” It’s a look of mild surprise. I need to stand my ground and remain confident, but I must say something (React) before it gets awkward (which will happen in about 0.5 seconds) so I smile like the Cheshire Cat and call out exactly what’s happening and what they are feeling: “Hey, I know it’s a bit odd for a stranger to walk up and start talking to you all and I didn’t mean to scare anyone I just wanted to say Hi and join in on all the fun” (with the right vibe that line would be purrrrrfect!). They giggle, say “Sure, come join us!” and all is well.

• I open the group and everyone ignores me and/or didn’t hear me except Kate. Time to read: She reacts really warmly and gives me an inviting smile. This is a best-case scenario. I must take advantage of it and engage this porcelain skinned goddess. Time to react: I smile back and move toward her as I gently and politely move her friends out of my path. One of her friends gives me a deer-in-headlights look as I squeeze by. Time to react: “So sorry, I’m just on my way to go talk to your friend over there” and I point to Kate. Friend realizes what’s up, smiles, and I start talking to supercutie. All is well.

• I was having a great conversation with Kate and then two guys came up and joined the group. One of them kept looking over at me and this beautiful girl talking.
Me (to Kate): “Hey, how do you know these two guys?
Her: “Oh that’s my brother Jim and his friend Alex”
Me: “Cool, introduce me to them real quick so I can be social.”

Reading and reacting all happens very fast. There is also only one way to get good at it: Practice ! Nobody hops onto a football field and is ready for the NFL the next day. It takes time and practice. When an interaction goes poorly, sit down and think how you could have read and reacted better.

In most cases it probably isn’t a problem with your reading, it’s a problem with not reacting . Don’t sit there and break it down like the Mad Scientist. Keep it simple because chances are it was a simple mistake.

Now for those of you with an artists’ mentality. (I’m smiling as I imagine Hall of Fame linebacker Lawrence Taylor blinged out with a smile on his face painting “happy little trees” on a canvas just like Bob Ross.) Rather than being a Mad Scientist and trying to Kill Superman every night, think like an artist. The tools of Charisma Arts are your brushes and paint. Disqualification is your red, Leading is your white, Kino is your black, your Vibe is the canvas, the Logistics are your short, fat brush, the long, thin elegant brush is your SOI, etc. Each interaction and conversation is a blank canvas and will result in something unique and different every time. Maybe you’ll get lucky and create something sloppy but fun with just red and a big brush like those impresssionist paintings that confuse me at museums. Maybe you’ll have to create a masterpiece using every color on the palette and every brush. The point is you never know. Embrace it. This is what makes it fun and exciting! Combine your Reading with Reacting as I’ve shown here and you will be enlightened as a monk and successful like Apple stock.

- John

About the Instructor:

John is a great example of where hard work can take a man. He currently runs ultra-successful bootcamps in Chicago, Ann Arbor, Washington DC and Columbus OH . You can read his most recent review on our forum .

Bonus Material!

Check out a hidden video we did of John effortlessly seducing the hell out of a girl in Vegas a few weeks ago: