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They may have grown out of hide and seek, but they still unintentionally try and conceal their real selves in their interactions. This is because people are afraid of being intimate with one another; yet it is exactly this intimacy that everyone craves.

Want to make a connection with someone? Then you need to learn how to seek out their true selves in your conversations.

Time: We are not the same person that we were 5 years ago, 5 weeks ago or 5 hours ago. What is interesting in an interaction is what is happening between two people in that moment. To have a highly charged interaction both people need to be invested in that moment and be reacting to one another.

To avoid this people often talk about what their lives were like years ago. They are hiding their feelings of the present by talking about a time that has passed.

Swapping anecdotes of your first day at school can be fun, but bring the interaction back to the present. Talk about how you feel in that moment, and if they don’t follow suit, be direct and ask “How does that affect you now?” This will engage them to start thinking in the present, and telling you something that is relevant to them that day.

Tense: An exciting interaction is one that is focused on what the people think, feel and plan to do in the present. It’s the difference between relating old dates, speculating about ones you might get in the future, or having a great date then and there.

Always think about how what the person is saying relates back to them in the present. If you don’t you’ll only ever grasp the image they choose to present of themselves in the past, or the person they imagine they’re going to be in the future. The present is the real individual and the one who can connect with you.

If they are talking about the restaurant they want to open in the future, ask them about what they are doing now to accomplish that.

If they say they were such a geeky child ask if that is how they still see themselves.

Challenge people to think about how they feel in the moment, this is much more intimate than speculating about the past or the future.

Tell them what you want to do with them right now. The present is the most powerful and sexy tense.

Topic: Most films and books you truly love will be because of the character. People fall in love with characters and subjects, never topics and contexts.

To connect with someone you need to know something real about them as a person: a thought, a feeling or an experience. This is the important stuff.  The topic, whether it be music, travel or what ‘Sex and the City’ character they’d like to be is unimportant. The topic is just the vessel that enables a person to express themselves.

You shouldn’t become too invested in a topic as they can be interchanged rapidly. How often have you exhausted all your conversation on one point of discussion and then felt lost for words?

This will not happen if you engage with the real subject, the character that is in the story. If you learn that they’re the kind of person that falls in love quickly, gets angry at least three times a day, or thinks pink is a sexy colour on a guy, then you have a way to navigate and understand every other topic they talk about in a much more intimate way.

People do like to hide from one another.

But they like it better when they’re discovered. Make a person be in the moment, the present, and their true character with you. It is only then that you will start to make great connections.

To learn more about how to find the real person in your interactions, take our Conversation Camp with Wayne Elise and start making the real connections that lead to hot dates, lifelong friends and great business deals.

‘Who’s the hottest boyfriend?’

‘Get some man know how- get clued up on the ten things we wish we’d known earlier about men’

‘Sex to make him fall in love’

‘My boyfriend left me for a man’

‘Never get dumped!’

No Charisma Arts hasn’t suddenly become a women’s magazine.

But if you’ve been stuck for what to say to a girl, or how to make your conversations interesting, then you too need to start thinking about what girls love reading and talking about.

The quotes above are all recent tag lines from best selling women’s magazines. They tell us what women are interested in, which can help you understand how to make your conversations with them more exciting, and engaging.

Take a guy’s magazine. It’s probably logically divided up, or specializes in, topics like boobs, cars or gadgets.

Girls aren’t generally into those things. This is probably one of the reasons why interview style questions about ‘things’ tend to bomb. Even the most exciting ‘things’ like entertainment, travel and ipads can wind up being conversational non-starters if they don’t connect with what women love talking about which is sex, relationships, love and feelings.

Yep. Definitely out of conversational safe ground with these ones…. but did you honestly think that when you catch a pair of girls in deep discussion it’s about shoes? Really?

It’s good to be out of conversational safe-territory. Having a conversation with a girl about the key subjects of love and sex, is filled with a lot more opportunities to move your interaction with her forward, compared with when you’re talking about footwear or PCs. Being able to move the conversation onto relationships is also itself an escalation; especially when compared with the ‘safer’ interview subjects of what job she does and all that other stuff you don’t really care about. By braving to talk about what she’s really interested in, you will be taking a risk and making yourself vulnerable, but in a sexy way. You’re also going to stand out from all the other guys who talk to her about boring stuff.

How do you get started doing this? Well you can open on another subject, usually using an I-statement, relating to what they’re doing in the moment you meet them. That usually works out ok, click here for more on how to make I-Statements. But if you meet a girl at a supermarket there is only so long you can make statements about apples for; about a minute into conversation after you’ve established some comfort, you want to move the conversation on to subjects based around emotions, experiences and feelings.

Feel the conversation isn’t heading in the direction you want it to? A good conversation escalator is ‘what is your relationship situation?’ The best questions are always as open as possible to give the widest range of answers… that sounds a lot less pointed than ‘do you have a boyfriend?’ Right? Yes, of course it does.

And if she answers ‘I’ve got a boyfriend’ then remember that is ok. It gives you an opportunity to talk about whether you like being in relationships/ single and be discursive about your past experiences, as well as things you would like to accomplish in the future. Relationship and sex based conversations can also be largely hypothetical. Our top European Instructor Harry says he can happily muse on the complicated possibilities of the female mind, and desire, for many an hour.

Also this gives her an opportunity to say ‘I’ve got a boyfriend BUT it’s not going so well/ he doesn’t treat me right/ I never see him’, and could provide you with vital information as to what her relationship is lacking, and how you can tap into her desire. A girl sometimes likes to leave her boyfriend for an upgrade. So pay attention and don’t bail!

So next time you’re at a conversational dead end try the big three topics: love, sex and relationships. Relationship status’ are nearly always ‘complicated’ and make a great starting point for an engaging discussion and instant sexy conversation.

Need more advice on how to switch from talking about apples to oral sex? Then try a Conversation Camp with our master of sexy conversation Wayne Elise.

Want to learn how to communicate with women more successfully and get them on that hot date with you? Want to know to how to send a text or an email that will get the response you want? Then stop planning your date and start visualizing it.

It’s 8pm Monday night. My phone beeps with a text message.

“What r u up to Friday night?”

My heart pounds. What does this guy want to do?

I am free on Friday night, but if I say I am, then I’m trapped. I could have ended up unwittingly agreeing to go and see Avatar for the 6^th time with his annoying friends, meet his parents or (worst of all) an incredibly awkward evening at his flat filled with mood lighting and make-out playlists eek!

I quite like him, but the odds of having a cool adventure versus a dating nightmare don’t look good so I text back:

1. “I’m busy”- this can be exchanged for ‘I’m washing my hair/ helping a best friend through a break up/ seeing my mum whose just come to town’ or any other LIE I can think of to get out of committing to seeing you.
2. “I think I’m going to be busy”- Maybes are not good news. They can pretty much be interpreted as ‘no’. I am however still offering a slight window of opportunity for you to win me over with your date night plans.

Unfortunately you’ll probably respond like this ‘Avatar, 6pm, on Richmond Street? You can get the 106 bus there or i can meet you after work.’

I inwardly sigh and remind myself to text you back (two days later) with:

“Sorry I am busy after all, I’m washing my hair/ helping a friend/ seeing my mother/ my pet fish has died” etc

Why hasn’t this worked? You went to all the trouble to work out the details? You even made it a place that it was easy for me to get to?

Problem is I had no real incentive to get there- even if you tried to set up a date opposite my house (this would be a little creepy) it would make no difference, I was not invested in the idea of the date.

How do you change this?

Move away from logistics. Bin the subway map, route planner, and the what’s on guide. Girls, and people in general, will make an effort to get to you but only if you get them to invest in the image of how great a scenario could be.

Instead of “What are you up to Friday?” be specific about the imaginative details, not the organizational ones:

“I would like to take you to this little hole-in-the-wall Italian restaurant, tell you a few of my really bad jokes over a bottle of chateauneuf du pape red wine, and then kiss you by the Thames embankment as we walk home.”

And don’t let it be confined to just restaurant dates. Visualization can work just as well on a budget; you can make even a really simple date sound incredibly romantic with the right wording:

“I’d like you to go for a walk with me around Hyde Park. We can take lots of stupid pictures on my Polaroid camera, and I’m going to make you laugh by striking my best poses. We can then sit on the grass in the sunshine and make out until dusk”.

Give more than just an SOI (Statement of Intent). Give a clear visualization of what the date is going to be like. This not only separates you from all the other guys that are going to ask “What are you up to this Friday?”, but it also eliminates the straight up ‘busy’ you’ll get by leaving the date open ended. What’s more if you create a great scenario in the girl’s mind you won’t have to worry about the logistics. She will get there.

Create the right visualization, and the girl will want to make the effort to make the date happen.

If your picture painting of seductive scenarios needs brushing up, try a phone coach with one of our instructors. Or to get the most out of every kind of interaction you have sign up for a Conversation Camp with Wayne ‘Seductive-Scenario-Creator’ Elise.

Hopefully you got our newsletter and did our quick Make-Out Magic Test to see which of our experts advice is the best accompaniment to your kiss-a-thon. Want to get our newsletter? Send an email to newsletter@charismaarts.com and we’ll make sure that you don’t miss the next one.

Wayne Elise

Wayne’s playlist is all about playing with expectations, and creating anticipation. His playlist is meant to accompany a make-out session that’s going to be remembered for a long time:

“Making out is like slow dancing. I like songs to which I can imagine myself moving slowing around someone’s body.”

Harry

Harry’s playlist is about being playful. He’s not afraid to blend the unexpected with the cliched, or to have fun:

“I like to think that there is something for every kind of mood here. Some sexy, some sweet, some nostalgic, some funny. I think it is important to avoid too many cliche mood-setters when you are with someone you want to smooch, as otherwise it can seem a little contrived.

Most importantly, have fun! Music is such a wonderful art form as well as one of the best aphrodisiacs in the right situation I think, so enjoy it! Pick some songs that are personal to you, and that get you in the mood. And try to make a specific playlist, so that Rammstein or something doesn’t come driving in on shuffle when the passion is reaching it’s intensity, as has happened to me before! God knows why that was on there. Having said this, maybe some of you are into that!”

Dan Tena

Dan’s playlist is all about sensual romance, and enjoying being a great lover:

His playlist goes from the romantic to the tantric, and demonstrates his intentions of making whoever he is kissing a ‘repeat customer’ of his seduction style. Dan knows that kissing is the first major physical escalation to something else; but he doesn’t neglect all the steps leading up to sex. In fact he enjoys the in-between bit. What can we say the guy has some pretty dangerous sexual skills… that he may be teaching to us mere mortals at an event TBD very soon.

Hayley Quinn

Hayley’s playlist shows how girls can want romance one minute, and BDSM the next:

“The music I put on indicates where I want the interaction to go, and what mood I’m in. This could be anything from explicitly sexual to implying that I feel like I have a deep romantic connection to you. Luckily soundtracks to interactions are pretty easy to interpret – anything with a high BPM and rude lyrics like ‘I’m a ho’ generally means I’m feeling naughty. However, anything that has mentions of love or an epic vibe to it could mean that I could be halfway to deciding that we’re destined to have a dramatic love story. You have been warned!

So what do you do after you’ve had an intensely romantic moment to Damien Rice, giggled at Marvin Gaye, got hot and heavy to Goldfrapp and had tantric tongue action to Indiogens?

Maybe you need help getting a girl to share the wonders of Elvis and errr James Blunt with?

How to get the hottie you want, and how to get them in your apartment for a make-out marathon, is the key to making our playlists work for you. These are however Charisma Art’s trade secrets to success, luckily though Wayne has written them all down in an easy to read, entertaining format. Huzzah!

Wayne ‘Juggler’ Elise’s ebook can teach you how to improve your interactions not just with very kissable women, but with life in general. It’s the ultimate reference tool for your social library, and one that we think will help you have a reason to crank out our snogging song-list every time.

Click here to order and start learning more of our trade secrets today.

I moved to New York City this year and I hate riding the subway. So instead I’ve been pedaling my bicycle along the busy streets of Manhattan.

At first I rode cautiously. But then I began following the more experienced and daring riders, studying their technique. And now I feel comfortable racing taxis through Broadway avenue traffic using the things I’ve learned from others and new ideas I’ve worked out for myself.

But in a larger sense I think my ideas on how to get around this town on two wheels just might be applicable to you, off a bike and in pursuit of your business or personal success. Let’s see. As always, I’d love to read your comments.

Top Ten Tips for riding a bicycle in Manhattan:

10. Its seductive over there in the far right lane. Seems clear and safe. But you’ll get trapped behind cars making right turns. Don’t go over there.

9. Aim your bike behind pedestrians walking across your path. If they spot you coming they might panic and run forward but they’ll never run backwards.

8. Buses deserve your respect. Enough said.

7. Road construction and other obstacles are your friends. They create chaos for cars and all types of interesting gaps you can swing into and use to jump ahead of the line.

6. Vengeance is useless and possibly fatal. Ride chill.

5. Strong legs and acceleration can get you out of a lot of trouble.

4. You’re safer riding between cars than out in the open.

3. Stop beyond the crosswalk, not before it, lest you get trapped behind the line of pedestrian ants. See our photo above for the proper position.

2. For practical purposes red lights apply to cars not bicyclists. We bicyclists only have to obey our judgment. Having said that, if you get into an accident, the police will always ticket you – after they finish scraping you off the road.

And the number one tip is…

1. Follow the bicycle-messengers and try to keep up. You will learn a lot by watching how the pros ride.

And now get some tips on Conversation Skills. Come to my Conversation Camp and learn to become a black-belt conversational expert. Hiyah!!!

He is also a world famous lover.

He doesn’t just get any girl, but he gets the girl he wants. Getting what you want and not just what you can get is fundamental to our philosophy at Charisma Arts, and I’m going to use Mr. Darcy’s dashing example to explain how you can achieve this too.

For about 200 hundred years Darcy’s been making women go weak at the knees, and making all other male attempts at seduction look bad. You may not be into Georgian Romance novels but we can all learn a few tricks to success, and mistakes, from what he did.

He may have screwed up a few times (don’t we all) in his journey to getting the girl of his dreams, but he did it with so much style that he’s been a hero of romance ever since. His unique ‘Darcy’ seduction style even rivals that of our own Wayne Elise…

To save you reading all 400 exciting pages of ‘Pride and Prejudice’, I’m going to have a go at condensing Darcy Theory into a few key principles… and make them relevant to helping you overcome your dating dilemmas.

Darcy’s Mistakes:

How not to introduce yourself to the girl: Even if you’re not a dashing, loaded, member of the landed gentry and likely to make everyone around you feel inadequate, an insult as a way to open a conversation can still go badly wrong. When asked if he would like to dance with his ‘target’ Darcy says ‘she is not handsome enough to tempt me’, just loud enough so that she could hear.

That’s a pretty big insult in the Regency period.

Insulting your target didn’t work 200 hundred years ago for Darcy (all the women in the novel essentially think he’s a jerk after he says that) and often it doesn’t work that brilliantly now either. I once had a guy ask me if I was going to have the mole on my face removed. Was I mystified by his confidence and disarmed of my female sexy powers? Yes. I ran away crying and asked my friend to punch him… I’m sure this wasn’t the desired effect.

So next time how about forget all this value stuff (as Darcy eventually has to) and meet people on a level. Work on your preamble to engage them in conversation, and then start talking about the important stuff: thoughts, feelings and experiences. Not cheesy or insulting one-liners. Even if the latter works short term, the former is a much better way to sustain attraction… and not come across like a total dick.

Instead follow Wayne Elise and learn how to be a Conversation Man.

Over Investing: To give Darcy credit he does his best to avoid making all the effort in terms of arranging to meet the girl he likes or even speaking to her at the start of the novel… then at about page 150 he blows it with a surprise marriage proposal that no one was expecting.

Now whilst no one these days is likely to go proposing to a girl that they’ve only met three times, there are plenty of other ways you can over invest in a relationship before the time is right. This doesn’t need to be anything extreme like stalking them on Facebook; you can over invest just in your conversations. By asking lots of questions about a person (and telling them nothing about you), not being comfortable with ‘conversational vacuums’ (silences or natural pauses) and trying too hard to DHV, you may end up with you dominating the whole conversation.  If you don’t give them the opportunity to offer any value by filling a conversational gap, or responding naturally to a statement you make with a personal preference or experience, then you may miss any value they’re trying to offer you.

Another problem with asking too many questions, and not making enough statements, is that any response you get will be less of a genuine response, than if someone had chosen to respond to a statement. You could also end up finding out a lot about their job, their favorite color, why they like this restaurant and absolutely nothing of real value about themselves. Women like to know that you have a reason to like them, other than the obvious. Tell a girl directly why you like her, and don’t do a Darcy and surprise her too much by plunging right in to trying to date her when the only thing you’ve shared is small talk. To learn more about how to say ‘I’ instead of asking ‘you’ check out our latest blog posts on conversational bridge building.

What Darcy did right

Tension: Darcy and his lady’s route to domestic bliss may not have been all plain sailing but my God that’s better than if it had been boring. There is no great novel in ‘guy meets girl, guy befriends girl’ or even ‘guy meets girl who wants a steady relationship, guy never disagrees with girl, guy and girl have a terrible sex life’ and so on. It is better that your interactions become weird, uncomfortable and awkward rather than boring. Obviously we’d prefer if they were exciting, engaging and stimulating but if you have to pick one or the other avoid boring.

Darcy is well remembered for his brutal honesty, annoyance in small talk, and constant tension in his relationship with his target. He is, if anything, a master of changing the pace of their interaction and escalating. A change is an escalation and an escalation creates tension. Tension creates at least questions within the woman’s mind and often leads to sexual tension.

If she asks you ‘what do you do for a living?’ and you say ‘do you really care?’ she is going to be taken aback, but she will respect you. No one will have interrupted her small talk, and attempts to avoid intimacy, before. Similarly if you’re not sure where the interaction is going, consider having the courage to ask ‘do you find me attractive?’ This may not always be appropriate but not only does it immediately remove you from the dreaded friend-zone, and creates a meteoric rise in tension; it also leads me nicely on to my next point…

Courage: Whatever way you slice it ‘I admire and I love you’ takes a lot of balls to come out and say. Now, you may not want to go quite that far, but even asking ‘do you find me attractive’ is pretty nerve-wracking. But you know what, that’s OK. It is okay to fear escalation, and no matter what anyone says, when you put yourself out there it is scary. Mr. Darcy with every self respecting gold-digger in England after him still showed he was nervous. The thing is you are not supposed to conquer fear, but learn to approach it. Because in approaching it you’ve demonstrated not only your vulnerability but also your courage. And courage is sexier than if you’d simply had the confidence to not be afraid at all. To learn more about facing your fear check out our blog on how to be a conversational lion tamer.

No retraction: It’s counter intuitive but when his target rejects him for the first time Darcy doesn’t retract his affection, and this is one of his main reasons for success. We’re not talking about being persistent but rather not ending your interaction instantly if you’re initially rejected. If you get knocked back maybe say ‘that’s fine if you don’t want to right now, but I still feel the same’. By not retracting all your affection at lightning speed the girl may have reason to suspect that you like her for something other than instant gratification, whether that is the truth or not. Also by managing the situation in a mature manner she’ll have a chance to admire your good qualities and it will leave a question in her mind whether she was right to reject you in the first place. Also if you remain open then it leaves a much smaller obstruction for her to remove for you to get together. Remember that great relationships often spring out of great timing.

And it worked for Darcy; by page 350 his ‘wishes are unchanged’, (that’s ‘I still want to push you up against the wall and kiss your neck’ in modern English) but his targets have, she now wants to be Mrs. Darcy… although he did have one last ace in his pack to help with this one.

Visualization:

Jane Austen was right when she wrote, ‘A lady’s imagination is very rapid; it jumps from admiration to love’.

Create a powerful visualization of what you will do with a girl on a date, or in the bedroom (if the interaction is at that stage), and it will give her an image to buy into and be tempted by.

In ‘Pride and Prejudice’  Darcy’s girl starts to really desire him when she gets thinking about what life in a stately home set in the Derbyshire moors with pots of money would be like. In fact the moment she starts to love Darcy is when she sees his crib. Yet it isn’t the material goods that really attract Lizzie, but the idea that is created for her of what her life could be like.

You may not have Pemberley Manor as your love nest but you can work this magic on a much smaller scale.

Instead of focusing on the logistics of a date (the when/where) specifically tell your date what you want to do ‘I want to take you out to this little tapas bar I know that has the best red wine, spend the evening telling you my bad jokes, and then hopefully kiss underneath the moonlight’. This not only allows her to have a clear plan for the evening, which should offset the panic that a ‘what you up to next Friday?’ text will cause. It will also create a powerful visualization of the experience she could have with you which can then develop in her mind like a photo. Do this right and she’ll want to pay a visit to the romantic date or sexual scenario you’ve created for her in your mind.

Take it from a girl – this really works.

For a more detailed explanation of everything in this article you can grab a degree in English Literature and start annotating ‘Pride and Prejudice’…

Or for an easier life (and better results) you can try Wayne’s eBook ‘how to meet and connect with women’, or one of our Conversation Camp experiences.

Much like any worthwhile interaction, a bridge isn’t built from one side but works when both sides put in effort and meet in the middle.

Building a relationship ‘bridge’ with someone from your side only is never going to work.  You become overly invested in the interaction. If the other person hasn’t made any effort, then it is much easier for them to walk away. Investing is committing so if you do too much of it, and the other person not enough, then you’ll end up with one person who wants to build the Golden Gate bridge of relationships -- and another who is happier just sharing a few stepping stones with you.

How do you stop being too invested?

Stop thinking about demonstrating higher value -- you may leave no space for the other person to naturally offer you their value. Learn something about them so you have a basis for your attraction and a genuine interest in their conversation.

Be comfortable with silences and use them to your advantage: give the other person a chance to fill the conversational vacuum.

Make statements -- don’t ask questions: questions demand a response, show some courage and individuality in a statement instead. If a person responds to a statement it is a more genuinely invested response, and is the first step in getting them to commit to being more intimate with you on every level.

For more about how to make statements instead of asking questions read our new post ‘How to Say I Instead of Asking You’.

Until then get conversational bridge building.

A good student at a Conversation Camp is someone who isn’t afraid to be challenged.

We all have areas of our lives that we might be dissatisfied with: whether it’s never closing a date with an attractive woman or a sale that could be career changing. Yet being dissatisfied with an aspect of your life, whether it is in dating, socializing or business, doesn’t mean that you’re bad at it.

Students of our Conversation Camps are just driven to be better.

You want to be an expert conversationalist and never miss an opportunity again to get that business deal or date again.

If you are unhappy with achieving anything less than your full potential, then a Charisma Arts Conversation Camp is where you need to be to hone your skills.

Conversation Camps for Dating, Business, Sales and Social Skills are designed to help accelerate your specific needs.

They offer you expert training and new theories for personal advancement from our Head Honcho, ‘Self-help’ Guru, and all round Conversation Master Wayne ‘Juggler’ Elise. Famed as a contributing author and character in the best-seller ‘The Game’, Wayne is a slightly reformed Master Pick Up Artist whose teachings have influenced a generation of men to be charismatic, conversational mavericks.

Since then he has broadened his unique, and entertaining, style of teaching to include political and business coaching,  and writing articles  for ‘Psychology Today’ and ‘Esquire’.

During a Conversation Camp Wayne not only teaches you the practical application of his ideas, but also responds to your individual concerns about where you need to improve most. Every Conversation camp is different and tailored to the needs of the elite group that is being taught.

We want you to participate.

To get the most out of your experience, and to excel as a Charisma Arts client, you are encouraged to participate in role-playing, conversational games and enactments of challenging real life scenarios. Luckily this learning curve occurs in the comfort, and controlled learning environment, of an up-market hotel conference room.

“It is quite amazing that he can just talk in a way that captures your imagination and draws you into wanting to participate in the conversation”- Jack the Stripper Alumni.

Our Conversation Camps are designed to fit our clients’ needs, and structured to optimize your time with Wayne or our instructors.

After two days a good student will be armed with practical guidance (and usually a hefty amount of notes) on how to conquer the dating, sales, business or social skills challenges you may face.

But we don’t want you just to be a good student.

A great student will not only have all the practice and notes they need to succeed, but they will turn their experience at a Conversation Camp into personal success.

By signing up to a Conversation Camp you’ve already proven that you’re the kind of person that is driven towards achieving your goals; all we do is give you the tools to achieve them.

“I left happy, I knew I had finally opened the next door in this journey”- Pleiades Alumni

Rule one of a Conversation Camp: you’ve got to come ready to confront your fears.

Lots of the time people try and avoid fear in their lives: the fear of speaking to someone new, escalating a situation, pitching your idea to your boss. There are even plenty of people out there who want to teach you to avoid fear. To do this they try and tell you that our interactions can be scripted.

But scripts don’t work in real life. Real life and really connecting with people doesn’t have a flow chart, and avoiding any social anxiety is unrealistic. Even our ‘Conversation Master’ Wayne ‘Juggler’ Elise gets nervous… sometimes. The difference with Charisma Arts is that we’ll teach you not how to avoid your fears but to overcome then; and that’s what makes you a real, engaging, charismatic person.

Fear is healthy.

It is normal to fear some social situations for fear of rejection, embarrassment or not presenting yourself how you would like. In fact if your pulse didn’t race a little when you first approach someone then we would suggest you try skydiving, lion taming, or kissing Megan Fox. We’re not supposed to avoid fear in our lives, we’re supposed to be able to face it and conquer it.

Fear is what drives us forward.

If we confront it, it shows our courage in tackling challenging interactions. And if we succeed against it then we get greater satisfaction from doing it, and a greater ability to escalate more, open more and engage with people more in the future.

You’ve got to come to a Conversation Camp ready to face your fears and become a more successful person. Be prepared for Wayne ‘Juggler’ Elise to actively and constructively teach you how to overcome your fears. He’ll use one on one role play and small group exercises to simulate and work through real life situations where your fear threshold is going to be challenged. Luckily these exercises come prefaced with new theories and examples from Wayne himself on how to turn fear into success. They also happen to be held in an elite supportive group, in an upmarket hotel conference center. So you can learn to challenge yourself (and have some laughs at Wayne’s expense in the process) in a comfortable environment, before learning new methods and ideas that you can take straight out and apply that night on the town, or the next day in the office.

By signing up for a Conversation Camp it shows that you are ready to face your fears and challenge yourself to take your social, business, sales or dating skills to the next level. It also shows bravery in wanting to change your life for the better – which makes us already think that you’re half way to mastering your fears already and are on track to be a great student.