Attracting Women by Showing Interest: Myths and Truths
By GK
I feel the need to put on my detective’s hat and unmask some urban legends I’ve noticed regarding my favorite part of Juggler Method: the Statement of Interest.
I’m known for teaching my Big Four to students — four basic ways to become great with women — and the results don’t lie. (Check out my recent reviews on the forum.) But within that four, I consider this part the most powerful: “Tell her you like her.” This is the part associated with the SOI, and if you know nothing else, know this: If you can consistently show justifiable interest in women, expect to write a fun-filled journal. It’s worked for me.
But much like The Force, the AllSpark or any other film reference my nerdy mind can think of, this knowledge can be used the wrong way. The acronym itself — SOI — can be confusing to a beginner, which is why I prefer to say “tell her you like her” or “show your interest.” Allow me to set straight some common misconceptions:
Myth: An SOI is meant to compliment a woman’s character trait and make her feel sexy.
Truth: We are not trying to make women believe they’re sexy. We’re trying to show them we find them sexy. See the difference? In the mythical example, we are being altruistic do-gooders, and this is lacking one vital ingredient: believability. The sexual interest has to appear justified, and altruism just isn’t believable. If someone walked up to you in a bar and handed you a $100 bill for no reason and without wanting anything in return, wouldn’t he seem fishy to you? Same idea here.
So remember to keep your SOIs selfish. Tell her how you get a personal benefit from her sexiness, and show, don’t tell, when possible. For instance, if she has traveled [...]
The Connections Can Find You
I believe in the Nostradamus theory of attraction. Nostradamus was a 16th century seer. His present-day followers believe that he predicted big world events such as the Great Fire of London, Napoleon, World War II, and even the 911 terrorist attacks. Indeed when I read some of his words I can sort of see where those followers are coming from – just got to read into the imagery a bit. Maybe I can find next week’s lottery numbers. However what I have also learned about Nostradamus was that he babbled non-stop and people wrote down everything he said. With countless manuscripts full of his lucid visions, its easy to find something that sounds like a modern-day event. Nostradamus was a ladies man, I figure. I want you to be Nostradamus. I want you to understand that if you reveal enough about yourself a woman will find something to connect with. Most guys ask questions, make ‘God’ statements and try to force a connection with a woman:Him: “Do you work out?”Her: “Yeah, I run.”Him: “Running is great.”Her: “I hate traffic.”Him: “Yeah, traffic sucks.”Her: “Where are all the confident men?”Him: “You’re right. Confident men are more attractive.”These are examples of ways that guys attempt to connect with a woman. To my ear they sound fake. Why? Because there is nothing unique or personal about the guy’s words. They’re just pleasant-sounding mush. It’s not believable that he agrees with her. When a guy approaches a woman and tries to relate, she becomes suspicious. It just doesn’t ring true. It’s much better if you allow connection to find you. Nostradamus was great at this. He blubbered on so much that connections with real-life, future-events actually found him. Think about everything that you know, think and feel. Think about the sum of your individual experiences. Now pick out [...]