The Connections Can Find You
I believe in the Nostradamus theory of attraction. Nostradamus was a 16th century seer. His present-day followers believe that he predicted big world events such as the Great Fire of London, Napoleon, World War II, and even the 911 terrorist attacks. Indeed when I read some of his words I can sort of see where those followers are coming from – just got to read into the imagery a bit. Maybe I can find next week’s lottery numbers. However what I have also learned about Nostradamus was that he babbled non-stop and people wrote down everything he said. With countless manuscripts full of his lucid visions, its easy to find something that sounds like a modern-day event. Nostradamus was a ladies man, I figure. I want you to be Nostradamus. I want you to understand that if you reveal enough about yourself a woman will find something to connect with. Most guys ask questions, make ‘God’ statements and try to force a connection with a woman:Him: “Do you work out?”Her: “Yeah, I run.”Him: “Running is great.”Her: “I hate traffic.”Him: “Yeah, traffic sucks.”Her: “Where are all the confident men?”Him: “You’re right. Confident men are more attractive.”These are examples of ways that guys attempt to connect with a woman. To my ear they sound fake. Why? Because there is nothing unique or personal about the guy’s words. They’re just pleasant-sounding mush. It’s not believable that he agrees with her. When a guy approaches a woman and tries to relate, she becomes suspicious. It just doesn’t ring true. It’s much better if you allow connection to find you. Nostradamus was great at this. He blubbered on so much that connections with real-life, future-events actually found him. Think about everything that you know, think and feel. Think about the sum of your individual experiences. Now pick out [...]
Blow Your Bubble!
There are two types of connection. There is forced connection and there is authentic connection. When we look for ways to connect, when we try to find a connection, rarely does it feel natural. It’s similar to trying to fake a laugh. Have you ever tried to do that? I find it difficult and it leaves me with an icky feeling. The strange women we talk to also pick up on fake connection.Her: “I like chocolate.”Him: “Chocolate is good. What do you like about chocolate?”Her: “I don’t know. I guess it gives me a high.”HIm: “Yeah, it does do that.”Her: “Excuse me, I have to go, my friend is here, bye.”Him thinking: ‘We were really connecting. Too bad she had to go.’Her thinking: ‘I’m glad my friend showed up. Why can’t I meet a man who I can connect with?’If you only make God statements, ask her questions and fail to express your unique self than there can be no real connection, in my humblest of opinions. Authentic connection comes about when two people both freely express themselves. Imagine you and a woman are standing facing each other about a meter apart. Now imagine that both of you are chewing twenty sticks of bubble gum. Ready, GO! You begin to blow your bubbles. These bubbles are your self-expression. You breathe in through your nose and blow out through your mouth. With each exhalation you push thoughts, ideas, prejudices into your expanding bubble. As your bubbles expand what do they eventually do?That is right, they eventually touch each other. They over-lap and co-mingle. That is authentic connection. You both express enough of your individuality that you eventually find real, common ground. And then you have created a unique and real-feeling connection. You will be remembered. And later she will want to [...]