How to take photos for your online dating profile - putting it all together with text

Okay, you've shot your photos and uploaded them to your profile on your dating site. Your final step is to add text. This should follow and and integrate with your photos. They should tell a singular story about you. Here's my About Me that integrates with my photos.

My name is Wayne. My friends say I look like John Cusack but truthfully I think I look more like k.d. Lang. In any case, I've got some grey hairs now so I think I'm all-wise and stuff.

I travel a lot for work so I love being home. And when I'm home I love walking to the local coffee shop. I have to level with you. I'm addicted to coffee. If you and I go out we will definitely be getting caffeinated together.

I like to think of myself as an active person. I walk a lot and do pushups. And because of my juggling habit, let's just say I'm a distracting guy to hang with in the fresh fruit section of your grocery store.

Some famous person once said he had never met a man he didn't like. I've never met a dog I didn't like. I find them inspiring. We should all try to be more like them - loyal and happy to see each other, and ready to chase a squirrel on a moment's notice. Ha. Just kidding about that last one. :)

Let's see, other things about me... I like to ride my bike. My favorite color is red. I'm a Sagittarius who thinks other Sagittarius's are hot - although I'd be open to a ménage à trois with a Pisces. And I can't wait to meet you...

The 'About Me' section was easy to write. I just followed the pictures.

Well, that's all folks. Hope this article gave you some ideas on how to make your own photos easy and effective. Please let me know if I can help in anyway. And feel free to share other dating photo ideas or questions in the comments. :)


How to take photos for your online dating profile - friends photo

Here is where you get your social proof. Composition and color are thrown out the window on this one. The shot was taken in a French cafe with low lighting some weeks ago. It was not shot for any purpose other than as a memento of the occasion of sharing wine and stories.

But I feel the shot makes up for it's technical short-comings with an abundance of warmth which radiates from Johnny and Sharon. These are the sort of friends that people checking out your profile want to share.

There's little need to be in the photos with your friends. Too many people think that they are going to be seen as more social when they have pictures of themselves with lots of other people. In reality those photos crowd out your viewer. Here the viewer can imagine themselves interacting with Johnny and Sharon.

For your own friend's photo try to find one where your friends are interacting with the camera as if the camera was a person. Photos of couples and mixed gender groups are good as they tend to feel more relaxed and inclusive.

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How to take photos for your online dating profile - activity photo

This photo is inclusive. The viewer can imagine coming by my apartment after our date and checking out my bicycle.

But imagine if I had chosen to pose on top of the bicycle. That would have taken the viewer out of the scene . There would have been no role for the viewer. This is a subtle but important difference.

Think about an activity you and the other person could do together and then design a photo around it in such a way that the viewer is included. Don't just snap a photo of you camping but rather snap one of you needing help setting up a tent. Don't just take a photo of you cooking but rather a photo of your in your apron welcoming the camera to your kitchen.

I can't overstress how helpful you will find it to reduce the number and complexity of your photographic elements. Here we only have a bicycle, a wall, two windows and me. Free from distraction the viewer can more easily appreciate color, framing and the subject.

The photo is also monochromatic. The only color is the red on the widows that is somewhat echoed in my skin tone.

The wall makes an effective backdrop. Erika and I used this as the backdrop for a video we made recently if you recall. Walls are your friends.

By the way, this is the only photo I didn't snap myself. Erika took it with my iPhone. I think she has a great compositional eye.

I like that the lines are not quite horizontal and perpendicular. They have a bit of angle to them across the photo. That's good.

Also notice that the pipe on the wall and the ledge my trailing foot hangs over give the photo a framing effect. We've created a feeling of containment which is helpful to make the viewer feel comfortable imagining themselves being part of the scene. Try it. I bet you can imagine just walking out of the camera and taking my bike for a ride.

One criticism is that this picture would be better if I was smiling. That's what you'd do on a date when showing your bicycle to someone.

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